Giving Space Is Not Ignoring: How Holding Space Is Also Part of ABA

In Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA), it’s common to feel like we have to act fast. We often step in quickly, redirect behavior, offer prompts, or provide reinforcement—all important tools. But today, we want to talk about something equally powerful, yet often misunderstood:

Giving someone space does not mean ignoring them.

In fact, knowing when not to intervene can be one of the most compassionate and effective forms of support.

Slowing Down Can Be a Therapeutic Choice

Strong emotions—frustration, sadness, anger, or overwhelm—don’t always require an immediate fix. Sometimes, the most supportive thing we can do is wait. Pause. Observe. Understand.

In those moments, the goal isn’t always to stop the behavior.
The goal is connection.
The goal is care.

Holding Space: What It Really Means

When a person is experiencing big feelings, they might not need us to “fix” anything. They may just need permission to feel—without judgment, without pressure.

Giving space can look like:

• Sitting nearby without offering a solution.

• Being quietly available, making sure the environment is safe.

• Using calm body language that says: “I’m here. It’s okay to feel this.”

This is a powerful way to communicate presence and support—especially for individuals who may struggle with emotional regulation or communication.

Yes, This Is ABA Too

ABA is about more than just teaching skills or reducing challenging behavior. It’s also about supporting the whole person, including their emotional experience.

Saying something like,

“It’s okay to feel this. I’m here with you,”
is just as meaningful—and valid—as teaching a functional communication skill.

When we give space, we’re not stepping back.
We’re stepping in—into a deeper, more respectful kind of support.

Final Thoughts

As practitioners, caregivers, or educators, let’s remind ourselves:

• Support doesn't always look active.

• Progress doesn’t always come from immediate intervention.

• And presence doesn’t always need words.

Giving space is also care.
Giving space is also ABA.